This is how we gift to each other. Something we want, something we need, something to wear, something to read. It limits us to four gifts, but still gives us a variety. It's how we plan to gift to our children as well. I know many families {both of ours included} who give their children a bunch of gifts, and while gifts are fun to give and receive, my husband and I decided that we like how finite this list is. Four things. One has to be a book. One has to be something you wear {but this can range from pajamas to jewelry}. One has to be something they need {this is the least fun one, but it's still nice to get something you've needed}. One has to be something they want {this is the most open ended one, and thus the most fun}.

This year, we bought each other a record player/cd player/radio for "something we want". Normally we won't go in together to get each other the same gift, but since it was $40 {second hand} and we both had been wanting one, we sprung. Matt's family grew up with one, and I think it's a nice tradition for our little family as well.

For the something we need, we talked about some things that we have been needing and then bought them separately. I could tell you what I got Matt, but I'll wait.The clue on the present is "something to encourage make-out sessions". Mull that one over for awhile.

For the something we wear, we went different directions. I'm getting Matt's wedding ring resized because he currently has to wear it on his middle finger. My husband's getting super skinny. He's getting me something more traditional in the clothes arena.

For the something we read, we exchanged book lists and then bought one for each other. His clue is "A Tater you can read."

Does your family have a pattern of gift giving? Maybe a spending limit? For the other side of the family we have a spending limit. How about clues on gifts? Is that only my family? Tell me about your gift giving/opening traditions.


  1. I would encourage you to consider if we as Christians should participate in what the world calls christmas. Here is a copy and paste from a letter I wrote a family member when we told them we were not participating. I was challenged to take a blank sheet of paper, an open bible, and come up with anything close to what christmas is today. I couldnt...

    Can you sincerely say to God about this issue,
    “Have Thine own way, Lord; have thine own way.
    Thou art the potter, I am the clay. Mold me and make
    me after Thy will, While I am waiting, yielded and still”?

    Psalm 118:24
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    24 This is the day the LORD has made;
    We will rejoice and be glad in it.

    THE ROMAN CATHOLIC POPE Instituted "The Mass of Christ" It is a man made day. How can we celebrate a non God ordained day and directly go against scripture, rejoice, and be glad in it?" Christians shouldn't participate in any 'mass' let alone the mass of Christ. Heresy....

    Deuteronomy 4:1-2
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    Moses Commands Obedience
    4 “Now, O Israel, listen to the statutes and the judgments which I teach you to observe, that you may live, and go in and possess the land which the LORD God of your fathers is giving you. 2 You shall not add to the word which I command you, nor take from it, that you may keep the commandments of the LORD your God which I command you.

    Directly Goes against men making up their own holy days “Holidays” and thinking they are ok, even if the intentions are good!

    Deuteronomy 12:32
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    32 “Whatever I command you, be careful to observe it; you shall not add to it nor take away from it.

    Man adds a Christmas celebration. If God wanted us to do it, he would have commanded it .

    Deuteronomy 12:1-4
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    A Prescribed Place of Worship
    12 “These are the statutes and judgments which you shall be careful to observe in the land which the LORD God of your fathers is giving you to possess, all the days that you live on the earth. 2 You shall utterly destroy all the places where the nations which you shall dispossess served their gods, on the high mountains and on the hills and under every green tree. 3 And you shall destroy their altars, break their sacred pillars, and burn their wooden images with fire; you shall cut down the carved images of their gods and destroy their names from that place. 4 You shall not worship the LORDyour God with such things.

    Jeremiah 10:1-20
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    Idols and the True God
    10 Hear the word which the LORD speaks to you, O house of Israel.
    2 Thus says the LORD:
    “Do not learn the way of the Gentiles;
    Do not be dismayed at the signs of heaven,
    For the Gentiles are dismayed at them.
    3 For the customs of the peoples are futile;
    Christmas is the way of the gentiles!

  2. Mark 7:1-15
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    Defilement Comes from Within
    7 Then the Pharisees and some of the scribes came together to Him, having come from Jerusalem. 2 Now whenthey saw some of His disciples eat bread with defiled, that is, with unwashed hands, they found fault. 3 For the Pharisees and all the Jews do not eat unless they wash their hands in a special way, holding the tradition of the elders. 4 When they come from the marketplace, they do not eat unless they wash. And there are many other things which they have received and hold, like the washing of cups, pitchers, copper vessels, and couches.
    5 Then the Pharisees and scribes asked Him, “Why do Your disciples not walk according to the tradition of the elders, but eat bread with unwashed hands?”
    6 He answered and said to them, “Well did Isaiah prophesy of you hypocrites, as it is written:
    ‘This people honors Me with their lips,
    But their heart is far from Me.
    7 And in vain they worship Me,
    Teaching as doctrines the commandments of men.’
    8 For laying aside the commandment of God, you hold the tradition of men the washing of pitchers and cups, and many other such things you do.”
    9 He said to them, “All too well you reject the commandment of God, that you may keep your tradition.
    Mark 7:13
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    13 making the word of God of no effect through your tradition which you have handed down. And many such things you do.”

    Think the bible is clear about NOT doing tradition of men in new and old testament???

    Galatians 4:9-18
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    9 But now after you have known God, or rather are known by God, how is it that you turn again to the weak and beggarly elements, to which you desire again to be in bondage? 10 You observe days and months and seasons and years. 11 I am afraid for you, lest I have labored for you in vain.
    12 Brethren, I urge you to become like me, for I became like you. You have not injured me at all. 13 You know that because of physical infirmity I preached the gospel to you at the first. 14 And my trial which was in my flesh you did not despise or reject, but you received me as an angel of God, even as Christ Jesus. 15 What then was the blessing you enjoyed? For I bear you witness that, if possible, you would have plucked out your own eyes and given them to me. 16 Have I therefore become your enemy because I tell you the truth?

    1 John 2:15-17
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    Do Not Love the World
    15 Do not love the world or the things in the world. If anyone loves the world, the love of the Father is not in him.16 For all that is in the world—the lust of the flesh, the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life—is not of the Father but is of the world. 17 And the world is passing away, and the lust of it; but he who does the will of God abides forever.

    2 Corinthians 6:10-18
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    Be Holy
    11 O Corinthians! We have spoken openly to you, our heart is wide open. 12 You are not restricted by us, but you are restricted by your own affections. 13 Now in return for the same (I speak as to children), you also be open.

  3. 14 Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers. For what fellowship has righteousness with lawlessness? And what communion has light with darkness? 15 And what accord has Christ with Belial? Or what part has a believer with an unbeliever? 16 And what agreement has the temple of God with idols? For you are the temple of the living God. As God has said:
    “I will dwell in them
    And walk among them.
    I will be their God,
    And they shall be My people.”

    17 Therefore
    “Come out from among them
    And be separate, says the Lord.
    Do not touch what is unclean,
    And I will receive you.”
    18 “I will be a Father to you,
    And you shall be My sons and daughters,
    Says the LORD Almighty.”

    Romans 12:1-10
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    Living Sacrifices to God
    12 I beseech you therefore, brethren, by the mercies of God, that you present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable to God, which is your reasonable service. 2 And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God.

    Christmas is the easiest day of the year for non-christians to blend in with God’s people. Why? Because God’s people celebrate a pagan holiday with pagan traditions. Seems like God’s people are blending in with the world as opposed to non-Christians looking holy!

    Genesis 18:19
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    19 For I have known him, in order that he may command his children and his household after him, that they keep the way of the LORD, to do righteousness and justice, that the LORD may bring to Abraham what He has spoken to him.”
    God, in Genesis, the first account of human life, warns against humans being drawn to non Godly ways, thoughts, and traditions. Christmas didn’t exist for HUNDREDS AND HUNDREDS OF YEARS. There was no God instituted tradition to carry on!

    The disciples didn't "celebrate christmas." Why? Because God didn't ordain it, it didnt exist, and we shouldnt.

    Can you imagine the disciples, months after christ has die literally saying...

    "Hey you 11 disciples I have an idea. Lets celebrate the birth of Christ once per year. Let's just set a date.... how about December 25th? Sound Good? Great. Then lets get each other gifts. Then lets bring in trees and decorate them. Who cares if people of our day got in trouble for this same thing? Also lets lie to our children and tell them someone who has God like qualities is going to bring them presents and hey, lets borrow money we dont have from our local tax collector to buy them with! This ought to honor God dont you think?"

    1. I appreciate your opinion, Mr. Zude! We didn't have a Christmas tree growing up and most of our friends growing up didn't celebrate either. I am familiar with both sides.

  4. Hi darling, just so you know we have cut back considerably on presents. There are much fewer. We were going to do the one fun, one clothes, one specifically for spiritual growth- but I really didn't stick to that this year. Also as you know it is Dec 21 and so far Matt has more presents than anyone :) (well Bekah does technically). I can't wait to see you.

    Brad- I hope you have a joy filled end of 2012.


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