Financial Goals

We're all driven by different goals and different dreams.

I'm a Christian, which means that I strive to look at life through the lens of the Bible. I'm a wife, which means I have a built in best friend to help, support, and receive love and help from as well. I'm a mother, and I hope to teach Charlotte to look at life through the lens of the Bible, as well as many beautiful life skills.

During the week, I fold a load of laundry a day, make meals at home, and do dishes at least once a day. During those times when my hands are busy and also when I'm riding in the car without Matt, I like to listen to podcasts, because they're a free way to acquire someone else's opinion, and, often, some wisdom. I work a part time job as a secretary, and I am currently taking a pottery class as well as a Financial Peace University class. I want to be continually growing in knowledge about the things I'm passionate about, from people who are giving glory to their Creator. Because of this Financial Peace University class, we're focused on budgeting this season, and taking steps toward our financial goals.

Here's a list of some of my favorite financial podcasts, so you can listen when your hands are busy.
  • Dave Ramsey: Dave's radio show has helped Matt and I make sound Biblical choices and stay away from debt while we save and invest. Listening to this show often, helps keep these goals in my mind and makes the daily "sacrifice" of not spending easier for me.
  • Business Boutique: This is a podcast about running a business. We're hoping to start a window cleaning business in 2018, and I have been soaking up information from this podcast.
  • Retire Inspired: This is a podcast about setting goals for Retirement. This guy has the best voice and motivates me with his wording. If you think retirement is an old people thing, Chris Hogan says, "Retirement is a smart people thing."
We've budgeting hard core this month, paying attention to all of the categories and being purposeful not just to live on less than we make (something I wish more Americans did), but to meet our financial goals.

In the past, like with my weight loss goals, I have found that I do best when I make my/our goals public. It holds me accountable to keep taking the same steps forward.

Our financial goal for this year is to pay as much of our mortgage off as we can. We currently owe $78,937.13 on our home. If you knew our income, you would know that we can not meet this goal this year, or next year, and that probably this goal will take us at least five years of focus. Chris Hogan says, "I'm focused, and I'm not finished."

What's the point of paying off our home? What's the long term goal? What's our "WHY?" 

Long term, Matt and I would like to pay for our next home, our dream home, with cash, and live a completely debt-free life. Long term, Matt and I would like to teach our children to be intentional and generous with their money. Long term, Matt and I would like to change our family tree, and not by handing our children the world, but by teaching them, from an early age, that there are specifics in the Bible concerning money and the way it should be handled.

The Bible Says:

Proverbs 21:20 "There is treasure to be desired and oil in the dwelling of the wise; but a foolish man spendeth it up.” A fool lives paycheck to paycheck, with nothing left over.

Hebrew 12:11 “Now no chastening for the present seemeth to be joyous, but grievous: nevertheless afterward it yieldeth the peaceable fruit of righteousness unto them which are exercised thereby.” This is hard work. This is not easy, but it will change your life.

Matthew 6:21 "For where your treasure is, there will your heart be also.” Look at your budget. Look where you're spending your money. That's where your heart is.

Proverbs 13:22 “A good man leaveth an inheritance to his children's children...” 

Proverbs 22:6-7 "Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it. The rich ruleth over the poor, and the borrower is servant to the lender." Teach your children early that debt is making someone other than God your master. 

Romans 13:8 "Owe no man any thing, but to love him..." That's a pretty clear verse. 

The Bible isn't a rule book that we should use to smack people into line, the Bible is spotlight to show us the best possible path through life, with our dependence on Jesus Christ.



Goal Weight

When I began my Trim Healthy Mama in January of 2016 weighing just over 200 pounds, I set my goal weight at 128 pounds. After thirteen months on plan, I'm excited to say that I've made it!!!!!

The sisters who started this plan, give all the glory for this way of eating to the God who created our bodies and also created the food we eat, and that's one of my favorite things about this plan. God made me. God gave us this beautiful gift in delicious food. He gave me the personality I have, and thirteen months into this plan, I have lost seventy-two pounds and feel FANTASTIC.

Give credit where it's due, and I could not have had this level of happiness (and maybe even success) on this plan doing it alone. My husband Matt has been on plan with me for nine months now, and he has lost thirty pounds and maintained at goal. My parents make an on plan meal for us every time we eat at their house, and my in-laws make on-plan meals for us every family night as well! There have been some beautiful, supportive ladies at church as well. It takes a village, right?

I feel like screaming, William Wallace style, "FREEDOM!!!!!!!!!!!!!!" That's what this plan has given me: food freedom. I know what food does to my body. Some foods energize me, some foods satisfy me, and some foods make my blood sugar spike and my body feel like it has been run over.

This plan is doable. After the initial learning curve, it's easy. This plan works and works and works and works, and I and my husband are proof of that.

If you want to see most of my Trim Healthy Mama posts, check them out here.

Also, there's a giveaway for 3D Fiber Lash+ Mascara, which legitimately adds length to your eyelashes when you apply it. Don't miss that opportunity!

I'm hopeful that in the future I can use my experience to help other women win with food freedom on Trim Healthy Mama!


Younique 3D Fiber Lashes+ Giveaway

When Crissy got in touch with me about a Younique makeup giveaway, I was excited to help a #girlboss spread a little fun. If you've ever seen Younique 3D Fiber Lashes+ Mascara in action, you know that this mascara adds some serious length, and if you want to try it for free, this is your chance!

One winner will receive a 3D Fiber Lashes+ Mascara and three other lucky winners will receive samples of Younique's detoxifying charcoal mask! That's four chances to win!

To enter make sure you've followed these three steps:

  1. Like Younique Creations by Crissy on Facebook.
  2. Like A Helpmeet for Him on Facebook.
  3. Comment on the "Younique Giveaway Post" which is the latest post on A Helpmeet for Him's facebook page, describing your ideal eye makeup. Are you cat eye, smokey, natural, bright or something of your own creation?

Eye makeup is something I'd love to get better at, and lengthening my lashes sounds like the perfect place to start! Good luck, beautiful!

Giveaway will close Saturday at noon, and winner will be announced Saturday evening on A Helpmeet For Him's Facebook page!


Family Focus

  • Matt put in his notice at his window cleaning job, and in less than two weeks he starts a new job for Atlantic Electric, with better pay, overtime, and benefits! We're thanking God for this next step for our family! He's also tearing out the wall beside our stairs to put in a built-in-bookshelf, moving the closet in our bedroom, and putting an on-suite half bath in too! That's a long term project, so you'll see the changes as they progress.
  • I started a pottery class at the beginning of January (which you've seen if you follow me on Instagram), and, to be honest, I kind of hated it at first. I was having trouble making anything, but it turns out my clay was just too hard, and now that it's wet enough, I'm feeling comfortable with my groove! This week we're also starting Financial Peace University, and I'm geeking out over fun things like budgeting, saving, and investing. Yes, this is my serious face. As far as my weight, I'm holding steady at 129, which is so close to my goal of 128 that it's almost acceptable. Hoping to reach goal before God gives us another babe, but also totally ready for another babe. Also, I gave an Introduction talk to Trim Healthy Mama, which is fast paced and stuffed with information, if you're interested.
  • Charlotte has been walking along everything, from walls, to furniture, to toys, to us, and she'll let go of things and just stand. She's so close to stepping away and walking. No hurry, baby. She dances now, to even the mildest songs, and it's adorable. Hands up and bounce. We're thankful for that baby kid.


Breakfast Burritos: S

My husband's breakfast specialty is a beautifully on-plan burrito. He makes these for us most weekends and for himself a couple of times throughout the week. We have had awesome success on the Trim Healthy Mama Plan and both of us are less than two pounds from goal weight!

Breakfast Burritos: S 

Makes two breakfast burritos (my husband and I both eat one and it keeps us full for three hours).


  • 2 Mission Carb Balance Whole Wheat Tortillas 
  • 3 pieces of sugar free Bacon
  • 1/2 cup minced Red Onion
  • 10 chopped Black Olives
  • 4 Eggs
  • 3 oz of Cheese
  • Lettuce
  • 1/2 of a Roma Tomato, diced
  • Hot Sauce (optional)

Bacon is easier to cook well if you cut the strips in half before you begin cooking them. So take each of the three pieces and cut them in half and lay the six halves in your cast iron pan. Cook these on medium heat, turning at regular intervals. Lay the bacon on a paper towel plate to cool and then drain out most of the bacon grease.

Add your 1/2 cup of onion to the (still slightly greases) cast iron pan and add the ten black olives. Brown the onion over medium heat.

While that is browning, lay out a tortilla on each plate and add your lettuce and bacon strips. Add your tomato to the tortillas.

Crack your four eggs in with the onions and black olives and add your cheese. Scramble together, mixing well. Continue cooking over medium heat until the eggs are cooked and the cheese is melted, but be careful not to let the eggs get dry at this stage. Then split the egg mixture in half and add to the tortillas. Matt always adds hot sauce to his, but I prefer them without hot sauce. Your choice! Roll up and enjoy!!


Friendship with the world

James 4:4 Ye adulterers and adulteresses, know ye not that the friendship of the world is enmity with God? Whosoever therefore will be a friend of the world is the enemy of God.

When "The Girl on the Train" trailer came out, I was intrigued. What happened to the beautiful blonde lady? Was she killed? Who killed her? What was their motive?

My husband does his best to protect his eyes from sexuality, so I knew we wouldn't watch the movie, and when I saw the book at Thrift for $1.00, I bought it and put it in my stocking, excited to find the answers to my questions in a fast paced read. I knew there might be language or sexuality in the book (from the movie trailer), but I still brought it into our home, and (armed with a micron pen to cross out and replace objectionable content) I began to read.

The story moves quickly, and I wanted to get to the conclusion, but the book is infested with adultery. Yes, there is a murder and that is the "great sin," but the adultery is commonplace. Everyone is doing it. No big deal. Reading this book, you'd think it was true: everyone cheats on their spouse. Not everyone murders. Murder is bad. Adultery is acceptable.

I was struck afresh today when reading the books James, I think because it literally starts with "Adulterers and adulteresses..." God says, you can't be friends with me and live like that. "Friendship with the world is enmity with God."

I'm not cheating on Matt, which is good, but inviting a book like that into our home, was, for me, accepting a friendship with the world. He that knoweth to do good and doeth it not, to him it is sin. James 4:17

Am I against The Girl on the Train? No, not specifically. I'm against sin. I'm against things that are against my God. I refuse to entertain myself with the things my Lord went to the cross for. I had to ask God to forgive me for putting my own lusts before Him. I wanted to share with you how God has convicted me lately. I'm praying that you'll join me in keeping your mind and home free from sin!


Trim Healthy Mama: One year

One year later, with the same clothes on, in the same bathroom, after following the Trim Healthy Mama eating plan for fifty-two weeks, I have lost sixty-eight pounds (!!!).

I've been vocal about my progress, shouting to anyone who will listen, "This plan works if you just stick to it!!" You can't see my legs in this picture, but do you see the fat rolls above my tush? Yeah, my whole body is a much slimmer, lovelier version of itself. I'm thanking God for this gift of food He has given us, and I'm thankful to the sisters who created Trim Healthy Mama and shared it with us.

I got some leggings recently, and I love them paired with a long ruffle tunic! To celebrate my Trimiversary, I've partnered with a friend who sells Agnes and Dora, and I am giving away a pair of leggings to THREE lucky ladies!! That's three separate ladies who will win the pair of leggings of their choice!

Read the post about the giveaway here ----> http://ahelpmeetforhim.blogspot.com/2017/01/giveaway-agnes-and-dora-leggings.html

Frequently Asked Questions

My husband teases me that I should charge people for advice; I'm in constant communication with ladies about the Trim Healthy Mama way of eating. I love being a resource, because if it had cost me money to ask questions, I never would have made it to where I am. I love seeing ladies jump on plan, taking steps toward a healthier life, enjoying God's gift of food.

Here are some of my most Frequently Asked Trim Healthy Mama Questions:

  • What does a normal day look like for you? What do you eat? When do you eat?
    • I'll give you today as an example, but every day is different.
    • 8 am Breakfast: Scrambled eggs, black olives, onions, cheese, and bacon. (S, because of the egg yolks, cheese, and bacon)
    • 11 am Snack: Three pieces of sprouted grain toast with (sugar free) jam and (one wedge that covered all three pieces) laughing cow cheese. (E, because of the sprouted grain bread and the fruit in the jam)
    • 2 pm Lunch: Salad with lettuce, turkey, tomatoes, black olives, Parmesan cheese, and some (sugar free) vinagarette. (S, because of the cheese, and meat)
    • 5 pm Dinner: Chicken, broccoli, riced cauliflower, cheese, herbs, butter. (S because of butter, meat, and cheese) We also had Payday candies from the cookbook, an S dessert.
    • 8 pm Snack: I made sprouted bread in the bread machine following the recipe in the cookbook. I munched on homemade bread by itself. (E, because of the sprouted bread)
  • Do you buy the special ingredients? 
    • I have used several different things straight from Trim Healthy Mama which were given to me as gifts (Super sweet, gentle sweet, gluccie, and baking blend) and found them to be excellent quality, but you certainly don't need them. I use Truvia (which I get from Wal Mart) and pure stevia (which I get from Trader Joes) to sweeten everything, and we make our own "baking blend" by mixing equal parts almond flour, coconut flour, and golden flax seed. Works great!
  • What do you keep on hand? What are your essentials?
    • Eggs, bacon, apples, homemade sweet tea sweetened with stevia, skinny pop popcorn, 000 yogurt, green beans, cauliflower, okra, frozen chicken tenderloins, frozen fish, mixed nuts or peanuts, lettuce, tomatoes, light string cheese, off brand laughing cow cheese, sprouted bread, cheese, lean sandwich meat (no sugar in ingredients),frozen berries, heavy cream, coconut oil, dream fields pasta, and sugar free spaghetti sauce. (but I do branch off from this, and you certainly can shift this to fit your taste.)
  • What do you use as your main resources?
I had a baby in December of 2015, but I've been overweight (at least 170, on my 5 ft 3 frame) for years now. I started this plan at 200.2 pounds, and after fifty-two weeks, I weigh 132.2 pounds. I would like to lose four more pounds before I get pregnant again, but I'm incredibly pleased with my progress and journey! Good luck, ladies! If you have questions, please ask!